Election day is one week from today, so I thought I'd do a little post about California's Proposition 85, and why all two of the people from California who read this blog should vote "NO" on this particular prop.

Prop 85 is basically a resubmission, with minor changes, of the already rejected Prop 73 from the last California election. It would require women under 18 seeking an abortion to notify their parents of their intent and then wait 48 hours before they could receive the abortion. While most people wouldn't claim that it's a bad thing for parents to be involved in their teenagers' lives, I do believe that it's wrong for the government to mandate parental notification.

Some teenagers may not feel safe telling their parents about their choice to have an abortion, for fear that they would be kicked out of the house or ever physically harmed. This may cause a teenage girl to seek dangerous means to end her unwanted pregnancy, or she may delay necessary medical care to avoid her parents finding out that she's pregnant.

While the proposition does provide for a judicial waiver if a teenager doesn't want to inform her parents, it seems rather unlikely that a girl who is afraid to tell her parents about her choice will have the courage to go before a judge.

Weirdly, one of the arguments that proponents of Prop 85 put forth is that a parental notification law will scare teenage girls into not having sex. Apparently, they think that the idea that they'll have to tell their parents if they want an abortion will make girls stay abstinent. This "logic" seems absurd to me. First, this proposition is supposedly about opening the lines of communication between parent and child, but the prop's backers are saying that kids will not have sex in order to avoid talking to their parents about their sex lives. Huh? Also, I have a feeling that a teenager beset by hormones, emotions and peer pressure is not going to stop and think, "If I get pregnant from the sex I am about to have, I'll have to tell my parents in order to get an abortion. Best to stay abstinent." I don't think most people in their 20s or 30s think that far ahead, let alone teenagers.

If the people backing Prop 85 really cared about preventing unwanted teen pregnancies, they would write a law that mandated comprehensive sex education and encouraged teenagers to educate themselves about the consequences of unprotected sex. Perhaps there could even be a required unit in California's sex education class called "How to talk to your parents about sex." I'd vote for that proposition.

On close inspection, Prop 85 feels like a sneaky way to intimidate teenagers who want to have a safe and legal abortion. Hopefully, Californians will vote "NO" next Tuesday.

The website for the No on 85 campaign can be found here.

Here's an article from the Los Angeles Times laying out arguments from both sides: Abortion Initiative Puts Focus on Girls' Welfare

For a while now, Dakota and I have been working on converting the back yard into a more usable space. Our most recent and biggest project, was demolishing the old, rotting deck and installing a patio. It took several months, and we did it all ourselves. Dakota did the bulk of the work, since he's got the skills and the endurance for these things, but I certainly worked hard as well. We're pretty proud of the final product, completed the first week of October. Here's a short photo time line:

Here's what the old deck looked like on Day 1 of the patio project.

Here I am pulling rotting deck boards up with a crowbar. It's hard. I give Dakota credit for ripping the majority of the boards out on his own. But hey, I did my best.

This is the completely demolished deck/pile of rubble. Dakota cut down some of the bigger, unrotted boards that were supporting the deck for reuse.

After it was all ripped up, we hauled all the old wood that wasn't reusable up to the front of the house and loaded into a truck. Then, it was off to the landfill.

I actually had no idea there was a landfill so close to our house. This was my first landfill experience, and it wasn't nearly as smelly as I expected it to be. I definitely saw a lot of toxic-looking construction material and plastic being dumped all around us, but, overall, they seemed to be doing a decent job of replanting over the piles of trash with native plants and separating out yard waste materials and old appliances from other trash.

This nice pretty pile made up of the bricks that we found underneath the deck once we ripped everything out. Apparently, there was a patio in the backyard before. So, it's not so much that we were making a new patio as we were "restoring" the old one. Sort of. Dakota salvaged as many of the bricks as he could by carefully chipping away at the crumbling mortar between them. Then he took a sledgehammer to the cinder block and concrete blocks that were holding up the deck. I decided to let him handle that part on his own. I'm not much of a sledgehammer person.

Here are the molded cement planters Dakota made using the cement mixer he acquired off craigslist. These are for the special cactus section of the patio.

Unfortunately, we didn't end up having enough of the salvaged bricks to cover the entire patio surface area. We laid down all the old bricks we could (they're the gray ones towards the bottom of the photo) and then bought some inexpensive concrete brick from Home Depot to cover the rest of the patio. To fill the spaces between the bricks, we swept sand across the top of the patio and let it sink into the cracks. We'll probably have to add more sand after the first big rain, but, over time, it should get pretty tightly packed and stay put.

The new brown deck was made by Dakota from the boards he salvaged from the old deck. (I painted it.) The new deck is a long, low "bench" on the downhill edge of the patio and a wider section surrounding the planters.

Here are the completed planters and their cacti.

Believe it or not, I don't have one big, pretty beauty shot of the completed patio. We were racing to finish it before a party we had on October 7, and I guess I never managed to document the final product. I'll take one soon and post it.

So, that's the saga of the deck to patio transformation. It was a lot of hard work, but completely worth it. I'm happy we were able to use salvaged materials for the deck and half of the paving--especially since I felt pretty bad dumping all that old, crappy lumber in the landfill.

So, I finally watched Hotel Rwanda last night. It's one of those movies I've been wanting to see/dreading because I know how sad it is. And man, is it sad. Beyond the fact that it's about the brutal murder of a million innocent civilians, it's also about how people in the West--and around the world--turned a blind eye to the genocide in Rwanda, just as we did in Kosovo and just as we're doing now in Darfur. It's heartbreaking that people in Africa called out, begging the U.S. and other nations for help, and we did not help them. How could we have been so callous?

And, you probably all know, we're doing it again. The conflict in Darfur has been going on since 2003, and we still haven't sent a U.N. or U.S. force in to stop it.

Today, I made a small attempt to speak out by writing my U.S. senators, representative and the U.S. Secretary of State, asking them to turn their attention and resources towards stopping the killing in Darfur. I feel like it probably won't help, but, it's better than doing nothing.

There are more people I can contact (and you can too). Here's a list:

Secretary Rice
http://www.state.gov/

Head of African affairs at the State Department, Jendayi Frazer
http://www.hrw.org/english/docs/2004/06/24/”mailto:

U.N. Secretary General
inquiries@un.org

U.S. mission to the United Nations
usa@un.int

President Bush
president@whitehouse.gov

You can also write letters to the editor and/or simply contact your local paper and ask them to give the crisis in Darfur comprehensive and constant coverage.

Maybe this won't do anything, but I think it's better than ignoring the problem. For a while now, I have read articles about or thought about the crisis on Darfur, done a little Internet research and then kind of given up without doing much. Maybe it's silly that a movie has energized me to pay closer attention to what's happening in Darfur, but who cares. Silly or not, it's not a bad thing to start putting more effort into trying to end a genocide.

It's so easy to pretend that terrible things aren't happening all over the world--or get bogged down by how many terrible things are happening all over the world. But, I have come to the conclusion that I should always try to help rather than give up. I hope some of you agree.

I'll let you know if I find any other ways to speak up about Darfur.

UPDATE: Here's an interesting editorial about the conflict in Darfur from the LA Times. It's a bit old though, and their coverage since this piece has been fairly minimal. I think I'll send them an email.